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Wheel of Consent
The Art of Negotiating Desire
On Salt Spring Island, BC
With Pleasure Activists
Katie Spataro and Corinne Diachuk
and special Guest Caffyn Jesse
August 22- 24th 2025
Friday 5-9
Saturday 10-6
Sunday 9-5
What would it be like to be gentle, clear, and respectful when asking for what you want?
What would it be like to feel comfortable saying No or setting a limit, and doing so with clarity and grace?
Many people take this workshop to clarify and enhance their personal or intimate lives. The Wheel of Consent is great for that! What surprises them is how much it affects the rest of their lives too.
The Wheel of Consent is a model of interaction that is based on exchanges of touch but applies to much more. It sheds light on troublesome and confusing interactions and clears them up. It turns out to describe the fundamental dynamics of most human relating.
The Wheel of Consent distinguishes between who is ‘doing’ and who it’s for. With this distinction four kinds of touch become possible, opening a rich and varied possibility of experience. It shows you how to notice what it is you want, how to trust that, value it and communicate it.
The real meaning of ‘Receiving’ and ‘Giving’ become clear – and they are not what you might think they are! You learn to tell them apart, learn when to use each of them, and come to appreciate and enjoy each of them.
Many people have found this workshop and the Wheel of Consent to be life-changing. The Wheel brings clarity, ease, freedom, gratitude, and generosity in all your interactions.
WORKSHOP LOCATION:
The workshop will be held at Caffyn's private studio on Saltspring Island. Address provided upon registration. The venue is accessible by car. Taxi's are available as it's on a bus route from downtown Ganges that includes a 15-minute walk. The venue is not ADA accessible, please be in touch with access needs.
ACCOMMODATIONS:
For participants coming from out of town, a limited number of on-site accommodations are available for $50/night for a shared room $100/night for a private room, all with a shared bathroom. Additional information can be provided upon registration.
There are many nearby Bnb's, campsites and hotels available on Saltspring
Your Instructor
I am a somatic sex educator, doula and certified facilitator of the Wheel of Consent, practicing on the unceded lands of the Duwamish people otherwise known as Seattle. I study and practice at the intersections of birth work and sex work, drawing upon the embodied wisdom of these two lineages to support healing of the personal and collective cultural body. I'm continually struck by how a somatic learning of consent offers a transformative experience. I'm really excited to be a part of this learning journey with you!
I am a mother, lover, fierce friend, yoga therapist, somatic sex educator, lifelong erotic adventurer, and a survivor of sexualized violence. I live on the un-ceded territory of the Coast Salish First Nations peoples, colonially known as Victoria BC. I am passionate about creating safe enough spaces for folks to have conversations with their bodies about pleasure, and offering practical tools for negotiating consent from this empowered place. I have a dream, that the healing work we are doing here and now in our bodies, we can send down into the earth to the ancestors of this land, and we can send forward to future generations in peace and reconciliation